Avoidance is a disservice to growth
Lying as a means to avoid confrontation
If a patient says they’re better doing a squat position but in fact they’re lying, the therapist will be promoting a physical movement that most likely won’t help other people
If you fake an orgasm, your partner won't know they're not satisfying you
If you say you understand something, but you don't; you're not only being affected, your teacher won't get the opportunity to teach you better.
Every time I think about lying, I think about what I am protecting myself from? Is it from a judgement, is it from violence, is it from shame, is it out of habit?
How is avoidance going to help in creating a ripple effect of more efficient situations?
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the place where nothing happens in relation to others
the place where there's a dance of dodging bullets
looking the other way
the dance of anxieties overlapping
the presence of absence
The price of avoidance
If what I'm avoiding is confronting a solution because of the possible results, how is approaching this lie with more intention going to help me next time?
Is the price of keep on neglecting a problem worth lying for?
IS THERE VALUE IN LYING?
Now, let's switch tables. What if lying has gotten you ahead? What if lying gives you room for opportunity, an excuse to take a break, an excuse to cancel a date, an excuse to get a promotion, an excuse to breathe?
Is lying still a disservice to growth in these instances where damage is not measurable?
What if the confrontation you're avoiding in these circumstances is accepting that you didn't own your boundaries? That when you said yes to that date, you said it without considering you needed time for yourself? That you are tired from letting others cross your boundaries and then you lie to take control back.
Are lies protectors? Or are lies the camouflage, the mask, the face to put up when you lack the patience to damage-repair?
Are lies giving you space or postponing restoring the very disservice you've done towards yourself?
xoxo, denisse.
